Gettin’ Stuff Done

I’ve been trying to be really productive lately.

This past week I:

  • Contacted a consignment shop about selling our guest room furniture.  So, hopefully the furniture will be out in a couple weeks.  If not, we’ll be donating it to Goodwill.
  • Bought a leather chair to sit in our entry way.  Our realtor said that a seating area by the front door would look really good.  So, $40 on craigslist, and a lot of cleaning later, and the chair looks (and smells) pretty good. photo 4
  • Went to Lowes with J and we bought a whole bunch of stuff and made game plans for more.  I got some sandpaper and spray paint to fix up a rusted vent in a bathroom.  I’m just waiting for a sunny day to do that – it’s been raining for what feels like a week!  I also got spackle and tools  to patch our ceiling.  I started that project today and I’m pretty proud of the results so far.  Hopefully no one will be able to tell that there was once a leak there.  I’ll post pictures once I’m done doing all of it.
  • De-cluttered 3 book shelves and cleared off the top of our refrigerator, and our computer desk.

On top of all of that, I also have been trying to keep Henry pretty busy and try to wear him out during the day.  So, we went to our library’s story time.  Henry had a blast and he was so happy to see his friend Addison there too!  photo 1 photo 2 photo 3

Then, the next day we went to the zoo and Henry walked through almost the whole thing.  We have a zoo pass, so we go a lot, and I’ve learned to stop bringing our stroller.  I always end up pushing an empty stroller around while running after Henry. Or, I push an empty stroller around while holding Henry.  So, superfluous stroller gets left at home now.  As we were leaving the zoo, Henry turned to me and asked to be picked up.  I scooped him up and he wrapped his arms around my neck, and put his head on my shoulder and said “I’m gonna take a nap.”  It melted my heart.  Seriously, this kid is adorable in what he says and what he does.  Love this kid!

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Month 15

Dear Henry,

You’re now officially 15 months old!!  OMG….I have a 15 month old.  Kid, you are seriously growing up way too fast, this time is just flying by and the more I try to hang on to it the faster it seems to go.  You have changed a lot in the past month – with two big developments.

Development #1:  YOUR WALKING!! Or, more specifically toddling – which I guess makes you officially a toddler now – it’s hard to say when someone actually reaches that mark.  Your first steps occurred on September 13.  Your Physical Therapist said that you took 3 independent steps for her, and later that night you did that several times for your Dad and I.  I can’t describe how happy I was when I saw you do it.  I believe I had tears of happiness in my eyes, and I was smiling from ear to ear that whole evening.  You’re wobbly and you hold your arms out like a zombie when you walk (which is adorable), but you’re doing it!  Right now you still need something to pull up on to stand up, and for the most part you’re still cruising to get around walking wise.  But, you’re starting to take a few steps here and there more and more.  You’re slowly getting more confident with it, and you obviously see how happy it makes everyone when you do it because we shout “Yay” and smile really big when you take a few steps towards us.  I’m so proud of you.  I know that you’ve worked really hard to get to this point, and your hard work has paid off!  We’re still continuing with your therapy for now.  We need to get you to be able to stand up without pulling up and taking more and more steps.  I have no doubt that you’re going to be doing all of that in no time!

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Development #2: You are talking and communicating more and more!  You are becoming one verbal little boy!

Words you can say now:
-All done (aw da)
-Bye Bye (Ba By)
-Flower (low-la)
-Apple (A -pul)
-Mama
-Dada
-Ali (Allah)
-Cat (Tats)
-Dog (D-gu)
-Up (Up-ah)
-Down (Dow)
-No
-Milk (Ma)
-Ball (Baw)
-Uh oh
-Oh no
-Hot (ought)
-Pat (pa)
-Roll It – as in patty cake (wroe)
-Night Night (nigh nigh)
-Water (wa)
-Book (Ba)
…I’m probably forgetting some, as I mentioned, your vocabulary is GROWING
You’re also starting to make animal noises:
Cow – mmmmmm
Sheep – ba – this one is hit or miss – you were doing it and now you’ve seem to forgotten how
Three singing pigs – la-la-la (from a book we read)
Cats – mmmmaaaa
Dogs- ruff ruff ruff
Signs that you know:
-All done
-Mama
-Milk
-Please (you’re saying “La la” when you sign for please, not sure how that association happened, but it’s cute as hell)
-More
-Eat/Food/Hungry
-Friends (your teacher at daycare taught you this one.  you can’t join your fingers together, but you make the motion with your wrists and it gets your point across)
-Water (this is used for all liquids, so basically you use this to say that you’re thirsty)
You're signing for "more."  It's not the actual sign, but you get your point across.

You’re signing for “more.” It’s not the actual sign, but you get your point across.

This past month you’ve also started to become a more picky eater – which is frustrating, but at the same time 15 months is the first time we’ve had to deal with it, so it could be worse.  You still love to feed yourself, but you’ve figured out that you have some control over what you eat and will assert your willful nature when it suites you.  Lately, it’s become a battle to try and get you to eat any vegetables – green ones in particular.  We’ve given you green beans and asparagus this past week and you just sat there and shook your head at us when we picked one up and offered it to you.  You’ll eat protein and dairy just fine.  Fruits are still hit or miss, but are becoming more hit than miss.  For the most part your Dad and I don’t like to feed you “kid” food.  I’d rather you eat what we eat so that becomes routine, because kiddo – you are not allowed to be one of those kids who will only eat chicken tenders and french fries.  I refuse to let that happen.  This is only ever an issue when we go out to eat.  Kids menus are just horrid usually – everything’s fried and there isn’t a fruit or vegetable in sight.  So, the other day when we went out to lunch you ate honey glazed salmon and ignored the green beans on your plate completely…sigh – but at least you ate some salmon.

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We’re still breastfeeding twice a day.  You’ve been wanting to take a longer time in the morning, either to help yourself wake up and/or because you just enjoy it.   But, the 20 minutes I have scheduled to nurse you in the morning during the week is usually not long enough for you.  On the weekends you’ll nurse for an hour right when you wake up, and usually I’m fine with that.  We’ll bring you in bed with us and I’ll nurse you and we’ll all snooze for an hour.  It’s not only great cuddle time for all 3 of us, but it also allows your Dad and I to sleep a little while longer.  The night time nursing sessions are beginning to shorten.  You used to nurse for an hour here too, but now you’ve been falling asleep way before that.  Now it’s been only taking about 40 minutes total (20 minutes per side).  I really do love that you’re still nursing.  Not only is it super healthy for you, but the emotional bond it’s created between you and me is just awesome.  When you’re upset and you start nursing I can see your body visibly relax – it’s incredible.  I’ve been starting to get some unwanted feedback from your Dad’s side of the family about the fact that you’re still nursing.  Apparently they think you’re too old for this.  Whatever.  They can get over it.  As long as you want to do it, and I am able to, we’ll continue.  I see no reason to stop anytime soon.

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You still love to read.  You’ll hand us books to read to you and you’ll turn the pages as we read to you, and then you’ll take the book and flip through it by yourself.  Then you’ll either hand it back or get a new one for us to read.  “Moo Baa LaLaLa” remains your favorite.  You start to get irritated now because I think you know what’s coming next and apparently I read it too slowly, so you’ll get mad and frustrated until I land on the page that you’re wanting me to read.  It’s kinda cute.  You’ll make the animal noises that you know as I read it, it’s awesome how invested you are in reading right now.  Hopefully we’ll be able to keep this up for a LONG time.

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You are starting to get frustrated a lot easier.  I try to be really patient with you.  I know that right now your frustration is mainly stemming from the fact that you’re having trouble communicating what it is you want.  Or, that I know exactly what it is that you want but won’t let you have it – like when you try to play with outlets or cords.  We’re also starting to have an issue with biting and hitting.  I don’t think you realize that when you do that it hurts, and we’ve been trying to communicate that to you, but it hasn’t been very successful yet.  One thing that you do that I absolutely hate is that you’ll put your index finger in one of my nostrils and your thumb in the other and you’ll scrap down with your nails.  I think I have scabs on the inside of my nose.  It doesn’t sound like this would be a quick maneuver, but it happens in the blink of an eye and it always makes me squeal in pain – which makes you laugh….sigh.  I’m going to be really thankful when you’re done doing that.  That shit HURTS!   And as soon as you’ve done it, you look at me and say “no no.”  So, you know you aren’t supposed to do it, but you do it anyway because you think it’s funny.  You also like to test limits.  If we tell that you can’t touch something, like your night light in your room, you’ll crawl over to it and then look at us.  Then you’ll touch it with one finger, and then look at us, and register that we’re telling you “no.”  Then you’ll put your whole hand on it, and we’re still telling you “no.” Next, you’ll pull it from the wall and look at us, again we’re telling you “no.”  Then you try to put it back in the outlet, but you have trouble with that, and then you start to see if you can put your finger in the outlet instead, and that’s when we get up to wrangle you, and you get so mad at us.  I know that it must be hard to understand what you can do, and what you can’t.  Especially when you can’t understand why you can’t do something.  So, we try to be patient with you, and try to let you explore as much as you can before we have to take it away or remove you from the situation.

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You climbed up on that while my back was turned while I was cooking dinner.  You scared the crap out of me.

You climbed up on that while my back was turned while I was cooking dinner. You scared the crap out of me.

Your sleep has been interesting lately.  You’ve been waking up earlier than usual.  This morning you were up at 5:50, usually I have to go in to wake you up on the morning and that’s at 6:30.  You’ve also started to cry when I put you down for the night.  You’ll be completely asleep latched on to me, and I’ll break the latch and carry you over to the crib, and lay you down with your blanket and you’ll start to cry as soon as you touch the mattress.  It doesn’t last for longer than 30 seconds usually, but you’re still crying, and I’m sorry for that.  I wish I could hold you all night, but you take up too much space in our bed (yes, at 15 months you can take up at least half the bed…) and as soon as you’re in bed with us you tend to wake up and want to play, so we had to stop co-sleeping all together, which was good and sad at the same time.  Your naps have also started to lengthen lately.  You’re sleeping close to 3 hours some days, which is great, don’t get me wrong, it’s just an all of a sudden type of thing.  I’m guessing that you’re growing and that’s been causing all of the wackiness with your sleep.

You’re growing so much and doing so much and just transforming into a little boy more and more every day.  I’m astounded by you.  You’re awesome and wonderful and I’m completely in love with you.  You have changed my life so much, and I couldn’t imagine a single day where you’re not with me.  I love you baby!  I always will.

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Keep Growing!
Mom

Playing Catch Up

I know I’ve been silent for a while, things have been kinda jumbled lately.

Things with Henry are going great.  He’s still in physical therapy and I had a report from daycare last week that Henry was standing by himself and he took one small step backwards without holding onto anything!  Then, apparently he realized what he did and plopped his butt on the floor.  It’s so interesting/funny to watch him stand.  He does it so much better when he isn’t thinking about it.  Like he’ll be holding something and looking at it, and all of a sudden won’t be learning on the coffee table for support anymore.
And then, on Friday 9/13, we got a report from his physical therapist that Henry took 3 unassisted steps!  So, when I read that I was overjoyed and just a titch sad that I had missed it…But then Henry and I went to go and see J at work before the football game and Henry was taking steps all over the place!
Things with J and I are going pretty well.  He’s completely stressed and swamped with work, but so far we’ve been really great about capturing the time that we need with each other when we’re together.  I hate seeing him so stressed, and everyday I swear I see 20 more gray hairs in his beard (he swears that these don’t exist, but they’re totally there), but I’ve been trying to do all I can to make sure things at home go as smoothly as they can go.  I’ve been doing pretty well about having dinner on the table for Henry and I when J isn’t home and that he has a plate ready and waiting when he does get home.   And then add in trying to keep the house somewhat clean (ok, maybe not clean, but definitely no worse than it already was), and you know, taking care of the baby all at the same time.  It’s definitely stressful at times, like the other night when Henry would scream anytime that I set him down on the floor making it almost impossible for me to cook dinner, and by the time I had grilled cheese and soup put together he was too upset to eat, and I was a stressed out mess.  But, luckily things like that usually only happen once a week and not every night.
We have some major issues going on with J’s and my family, and while I can’t go into detail about everything that’s happening just know that it’s stressful and all good thoughts and wishes are totally welcome!
On top of everything else I’m sick….and have been for several days now.  It started out as what I can only assume was pink eye – my doctor never confirmed this, but I was oozing green out of both eyes and they were as red as could be.  The drops they gave me really helped with that, and that cleared up in 2 days.  THEN, I started coughing and being congested with a low grade fever, and I just generally feel like crap, not to mention that my voice is almost completely gone.  I’m just ready to start feeling better.
That’s been about my last two weeks.

Month 14

Dear Henry,

You’re now 14 months old today!!  This past month has just flown by, and it took me until i got in to work this morning and had a look at the calendar that I realized “Holy Cow!  I have a 14 month old!!

This past month you’ve returned to daycare, and while I know you have fun there and are learning a lot and interacting with other kids and building your social skills, the transition has been hard on you.  You had a great summer hanging out with your Dad, and now that he’s back to working full time, I can tell that you’re really missing him.  In the beginning you would cry most of the mornings when I dropped you off, but that’s slowly starting to get better.  Recently, you’ve started asking for your Dad.  You’ll say “Dada, Dada!?” over and over.  I think it’s adorable, but it is sad when you’re asking for him and he’s not going to get home until after you’ve gone to bed.

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Your vocabulary is increasing.  You can say:

  • Mama
  • Dada
  • Ali (pronounced Allah)
  • Cat (pronounced Tat)
  • Ball (pronounced Baw
  • Up (pronounced Hup)
  • Bye-bye (pronounced BaBa)
  • Pat – as in Patty Cake
  • All Done (pronounced Awe Daw)
  • And of course, we can’t forget “No”

You’re trying to repeat sounds all the time, and I’m sure you’re list of words is just going to keep growing and growling.  You’ve been trying to say “book,” and “block” but those K sounds are difficult for you right now, but you’ll get it soon.

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Speaking of books, you LOVE to sit with books!  You’ll grab a book, open it, look at the pages, say a string of syllables and then turn to the next page to repeat that whole process.  It’s so much fun to watch you!  Your Bubbi went and bought you a bunch more books when we told her about your developing passion, and you’re having a blast with them.  In fact, when we go out of the house, all we have to do is bring a book or two with us and those will usually keep you pretty occupied and content, assuming you’re not overly tired or hungry – then all bets are off.

This summer, your Dad and I really wanted to take you to a body of water and stick you in it.  Thanks to your wonderful Aunt and Uncle who invited us to a lake house, we were able to make that happen!  All 5 of us spent the weekend at a lake house and celebrated your Uncle’s birthday!  I baked a cake for the occasion and you enjoyed that immensely -especially when it was served with ice cream.  We all had a wonderful time relaxing, soaking up the sunshine and getting out on the water on a ski-doo.  You didn’t enjoy the water that much, in fact I believe you hated it.  But you seemed to have fun sitting on the latter and hanging your feet into the water.  It was a great weekend, and we can’t thank your Aunt and Uncle enough for the opportunity.

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You’re so incredibly active right now!  You’re crawling all over the place, cruising around the living and kitchen.  You’ve started to stand on your own for very short periods of time.  The first time you you did it your Dad and I just stood in shock, basically holding our breathe, afraid to move for fear it would distract you.  It was amazing and we were smiling like loons for days after that happened.

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You love to push things around now.  You’ll maneuver the dining room chairs out from under the dining room table and push them to all corners of the room.  You’ll use your small rocking chair to lean on while you walk all over the living room, steering it around the coffee table.  You have toys that are designed to support you while you walk, but you seem much more interested in the ones that you come up with on your own.

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You’re still doing great with food.  You love to eat, and will eat anything that we put in front of you ( as long as it’s not a tomato).  All the teachers at daycare comment on how much you love food and how easy you are during meal times.  Thank you Baby Led Weaning!

Nursing has changed a lot this past month.  You’ve stopped asking to nurse when we get home in the evenings.  You don’t ask at all on the weekends anymore either.  But, we still have the morning and evening nursing sessions, and I honestly don’t think those are going anywhere for quite some time.  Every now and then when you get majorly upset, you’ll ask to nurse, and a few times I’ve had to tell you no.  The look on your face when you hear me say no to nursing just kills me.  You get so sad, you’re eyes get huge like you’re in shock, your bottom lip pokes out and then you start crying uncontrollably.  Although, usually when you ask you’re crying uncontrollably already, but it gets worse when you hear no.  When that happens, I usually change my mind and let you nurse, but I’m not sure how much milk you’re actually getting, but I’m pretty sure it’s more for comfort than anything else.  So, I snuggle you, stroke your hair and tell you I love you while your nurse.  And, you calm down so quickly it’s amazing.  Breastfeeding definitely helps with toddler tantrums.

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We’ve been trying to get more interactive with your play.  We built a big fort last weekend with a blanket and couch cushions, and we had a blast.  Eventually the fort collapsed, but you and your friend Addison had fun climbing up on it and then climbing or sliding back down.  It’s fun to watch you play with other kids.  You’re starting to drift away from just parallel play and are now interacting with other kids.  I love it!  I think this weekend I want to try to make play dough.  I want to make it because I know that you’re going to taste test it, and it needs to be nontoxic.  But, I’m excited to play with it with you!

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I love you so much.  I’m sometimes overwhelmed by how much I love you.  I hope that you can feel how loved you are, and huge impact that you have on everyone’s life.  You’re amazing to me and I would do anything to ensure that you’re happy and healthy.  That’s all I ever want for you in life: to be happy.  You mean the world to me, and you always will.

Keep Growing!

Love,

Mom

Two Questions

So, I’ve got two questions for you all, but I need to precede the questions with a recounting of last night.

Last night, I got Henry ready for bed.  He had a bath, fresh diaper – stuffed to the max for overnight use, he was slathered with lotion, and had his batman pjs put on.  I brushed his teeth,  I handed him his blanket, and then I settled in the rocking chair with him like I do every night and started nursing him.  The first 10 minutes of it went great.  He was a little squirmy, but not overly so.  Then, J got home and came in to give Henry a snuggle and a kiss before he fell asleep.  So, Henry stopped nursing for a few minutes so that J could say good night.  When J handed Henry back to me, Henry was a million times squirmier, and he kept slapping his hand across my chest and face and laughing.  I would sternly tell him no, and grab his hand to get him to stop, but as soon as I’d let go, he’d smack me again and laugh.  I finally had enough and unlatched Henry and put him on the floor and told him “No.”
Usually, when I do that, it makes Henry irate that he’s no longer nursing and he’ll proceed to throw a fit and then tries to get back up in my lap.  Last night, on the other hand, he couldn’t have cared less.  He was zooming all over the room grabbing this, playing with that, getting into things.  I was just amazed that this kiddo had so much energy.  Usually after 15 minutes of nursing at bedtime he’s over halfway to falling asleep.  After a little while J came in the room to see what was going on.  And, he was also amazed that Henry had so much energy.  I mean, this kid was playing with toys, grabbing books, trying to use my table beside the rocking chair as a rocker.  He would crawl to the door at lightning speed and turn around and say “byebye” and wave to us.  He’d then crawl back in the room and play with something else.  But, seriously this kid was flying all over the room for a good 20 minutes last night.
We kept asking him, “Henry, do you want to go to bed?”  and he’d say “no.”  Then, we’d say “Henry, it’s time to go to bed,” and he’d say “no.”  I was kinda lost for a moment on what to do.  I knew that it was getting later, and that he needed to go to bed.  But at the same time I knew that putting him down right now would only lead to a scream fest, and we’d be trying to put him down for over an hour if we pushed it.  So, I let him play for a while.  I was thinking that he had a lot of excess energy that he needed to get out before he went to bed, and if he needs to wear himself out to sleep well, then by all means do it.
On the flip side of all of that, I also knew that the later he was staying up probably meant that he was going to get overtired and then have a harder time falling asleep.  So, I was having this huge internal struggle trying to decide what to do.  Force him to go to bed and listen to him scream.  Let him play, and hope for perfect timing on getting him tired, but not overtired so that he’ll go to sleep easy tonight, and then stay asleep…Or, potentially letting him play too long and then getting him overtired and having him scream because he’s too tired to go to sleep….
After letting him play for close to 20 minutes, J handed Henry to me and he started nursing again.  But, he was still incredibly squirmy, and kept popping off to look at things.  Eventually, I gave up on trying to nurse him to sleep and put him in his crib, kissed him good night and left the room.
Henry was standing up in his crib screaming in under 3 minutes later.  So, I went back in to rock him, and he’d lay his head on my chest, but then pop his head up to point to something and smile.  He’d lay his head back down, but then sit up later to give me a big sloppy kiss and then smile.  Eventually, J came in and was able to jiggle Henry to sleep, and when he put him down, Henry only cried for maybe 30 seconds before going to sleep.
He did wake up sometime in the wee hours of the night.  For the life of me I can’t remember what time.  But, I got up and rocked him for about 10 minutes and was then able to put him back in his crib and he slept until I got him up at 6:30 this morning.
So, here are my questions:
1) how to you handle when your kid is nursing and is smacking you or doing a behavior that you don’t like or want to happen?
2) how would you have handled last night’s situation?  Let him play, or force bedtime on him?  Feel free to go into detail.