16, 17 And 18 Months

Dear Benjamin

Life has been crazy busy lately, and I’m sorry for not getting to your letters sooner. Like I said the last two months have been a whirl wind, so I’ll try to sum up everything that’s happened with you.

You’re doing great eating wise. You’ll typically eat breakfast soon after getting up, but around 10:00, you’ll be hungry again and you’ll want Second Breakfast. This is different from a snack, because at Second Breakfast, you want a full on meal, not just a little something to tide you over until lunch. After Second Breakfast, you’ll typically want lunch around 12:00. After lunch you have some down time, and then you’ll nap for a while. When you wake up from a nap, you’re starving AGAIN! So, you’ll eat around 3:30 for a snack. Around 5 or 5:30, you get Hangry. And start signing that you’re hungry and want something to eat. We try to hold you off, so you won’t ruin your dinner, but you start to get mad easily at this point (again, hangry). So a really small snack is given you so you don’t have a meltdown. Then, by the time dinner rolls around at 6:30, you’ll eat a few bites, and then sign you’re all done…..

You’re still nursing. It’s about 2 times a day now. I’ll wake you up at 5:25 in the morning and nurse you in bed with me for about 35 minutes, and then I’ll put you back to bed and you’ll sleep until 7:30ish. We’ll also nurse at night before bedtime, and that’s how you fall asleep. I love this time with you. It’s quiet, peaceful and just pure snuggles. I’m cherishing this time with you. Soon enough you’ll be too independent to want to keep doing this. But, we’ll keep it up for as long as you want.

One of the things you’re really enjoying at night before bed is for me to sing to you. I’ll ask you if you want me to sing, and you’ll nod yes. And I’ll sing to you one of three songs on your list: Edelweiss, Can’t Help Falling in Love, or To La Ru La Ru La. I love singing to you. A lot of times, I’ve noticed that it’s the things that calms you down when you get upset, and I hope it always will.

Little man, you have an awful temper. When you get made, you find the nearest object and you hurl it across the room, or go over to something and hit it. And, when that doesn’t garner enough attention out of us, you start hitting your head. I don’t really know what to do about your temper, right now we’re just letting you figure it out, and guiding you as much as we can. We’re trying to teach that you hands aren’t for hitting, but for showing love, but that seems like a hard concept for an 18 month old. I hope as you get older that your temper becomes less explosive….

We’ve had good news with your PT! They think that you’re not going to need much more support! We no longer need to put an insert in your shoe which is awesome! You’re bowleggedness is improving daily. You still fall a lot, especially on new surfaces or uneven ground, but it’s slowly getting better. Hopefully soon you’ll be done with PT all together.

One thing that does have your Dad and I concerned is your language skills. You’re still not talking much. You have about 2 words that you use with regularity. Mama – this does not just apply to me, but to everyone in the house. No – you’re pretty good at saying this. You used to say “ta ta” for cat, but you haven’t said that in months. You babble a lot, and you can nod and shake your head to communicate. You’ll point to things and and use a lot of nonverbal cues to get what you want. But the lack of verbal skills is concerning to me. So, your Dad and I are going to have you evaluated for a speech delay. That will get going sometime in the next month.

Benjamin, I think you are an amazing little boy. You have the best personality. You are strong willed and determined in what you want, and what you want to do. You are incredibly loving to all of your family. You idolized your brother and try to do everything he does, and you light up whenever Henry gives you one on one attention. You are also a creature of habit, and love your routine. It provides your comfort. You love to play with blocks and cars. You love to be outside and you like slides the most on the play grounds. You know no fear! If other kids around you can do it, then you will too, or at least try and then throw a fit when you can’t. You’re amazing, and you’ve added so much fun, mischief, and adventure to our lives. I love you with all of my heart, and I always will. You will always be my little boy. I love you Benjamin.